Now that I have your attention, I have to climb up on my soap box for a minute. A good friend of mine has a blog. On her blog, she has a picture of herself in the header. In that picture, she is wearing a v-neck T-shirt. It's not revealing, it's just a v-neck... not particularly low cut, just a plain old v-neck. She is a very big blog figure, has thousands of followers. You, in fact, probably read her blog.
Recently, on Facebook, it came out that several people think her shirt is "immodest." One person even said that she couldn't let her husband read the blog because of the photo. I promise you, the photo is not revealing. In fact, I have never once noticed what she was wearing in the photo until it was pointed out. I just saw her full beaming smile and her contagious enthusiasm, the shirt was short of shocking or even noticeable.
So, my question is this.... and those of you in other countries will probably laugh about this because I think it's totally an American thing.... why is it that we sexualize breasts to the point of obsession here in this country? Yet we segregate and shame people who are using their breasts for what they were designed to do. I can't tell you how angry it makes me to see "nursing mothers" areas with doors. Putting a mother in a closet, separating her from the world because she needs to feed her baby, is not sending the right message to our children or our brothers and sisters. Worse yet, even my OB/GYN office has a "nursing closet." YET, we tolerate Victoria's Secret parading half naked models around on commercials that are run at 8 PM. We tolerate soft-porn bra ads on the billboards and covers our of catalogs. We don't make the lingerie retailer at the mall wrap their windows in brown paper, even though the mannequins are in the "doggy position" and my kids always ask me why the girl is crawling on the floor in her underwear. (To which, by the way, my response is, "She probably dropped the back to her earring while she was getting ready.")
If that is the way we live, why would we attack someone who is living boldly for Christ because she's not wearing a turtle-neck in the process? If you can't let your husband read her blog because she's in a turtleneck, I guess you can't let him watch TV or look at the billboards on the interstate either. Why on earth is a breast something that we should be so obsessed with anyway? Seriously, I truly get the modesty movement. I don't want my daughter running around in tight, revealing clothing, even at 3, much less 23. I want my children all to be mindful of what they are wearing, the reaction they are causing from the opposite sex, and respect themselves enough to have some modesty. HOWEVER, if my daughter chooses a v-neck over a crew-neck, I don't think I will obsess about her lack of taste or question her commitment to Jesus.
I guess this post was really spurred by a fealty to my friend. I get my back up when someone criticizes her. But it's also about how backwards our values have become in this country. I could be wrong here, Lindsay and Barb please tell me if I am assuming something incorrectly, but I bet in most of the European and other countries around the world, nursing mothers are a natural thing to see in public and there's not as much fuss over a booby as we make here.
Get over it people!