Second thing I wanted to recommend was a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. I love this book and I have read and re-read it. It's got some really good stuff in there. The book is almost entirely based on one verse in the Bible, Ephesians 5:33. I've read that verse a thousand times, but this is an entire book blowing the whole verse and the way I've read it into micro-view. Without giving away the entire context of the book, Eggerichs goes into explaining WHY God felt it was necessary to point out to men that they should love their wives (love isn't always the "natural" emotion for men) and why He felt that He needed to insist that women "RESPECT" their husbands (He designed us to love unconditionally, but respect isn't typically something women think about in showing that love.) The book is a bit redundant in the first section, several stories to illustrate and re-emphasize his points, but stick with it, in the second section of the book it gets better. It's something I will be giving to every couple from this day forward as a wedding gift. I believe it may be THE key to a good marriage. It's definitely improved my relationship with Brian. It's relieved me from feeling the need to always be "in control" (read that as control freak and you'll be more accurate!)
Anyway, I hope that these two things bless you the way they have blessed me. They have each been a gift to me in multiple ways.
"Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."