The truth as I know it:

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life. But those who make their journey home across time & miles, growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them, are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us by God's very own hands. ~~~ Kristi Larson

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Some Housekeeping**** Edited

I can't post without showing off my treasures....


I have a few things I wanted to mention so this is going to be a hodge-podge post.

First of all, a while back, several of us talked about doing an on-line Bible study. I need it so badly right now. I am so out of the habit of studying the Word and I need something and someone who will hold me accountable for it. I have asked the Father to direct us to the study that needs to happen and I am going to start searching for something we can all do remotely and come together weekly to discuss. Please please please weigh in if you feel led to a certain study. It just might be YOU that God is inspiring to direct us to the Words He wants to give us this fall. Going into the holiday season, I want to be sure that I am meditating on His Word and not caught up in my own frenzy all the time. Jack had a memory verse for church last week that hit me in the face, "I have hidden Your Word in my heart, that I might not sin against You." I haven't been arming myself too well lately and the jerk always knows when you are running low on ammo... you can bet he'll come after me if I take my eyes off Jesus.

**Here is what I have found.... the first one is Believing God with Beth Moore. I have done this study before and it's amazing. I would happily do it again, in fact, I've wanted to do it again. It's intense. It will have you on your knees within a couple of lessons. Check out the info here.

The other one I found is another Beth Moore. This one is called Living Beyond Yourself. This sounds like something I could really use a lesson in, for sure. It's based on The Fruits of the Spirit as found in Galatians. I'm open to this one too. Here is the info. on that course.

I could not find any other courses that were offered where you could get full access to everything anytime you wanted. There were some that started and stopped at a particular time, but I thought with some of us living in different time zones, it should be self-driven. Just "vote" for which one you want and we'll pick a date to start. **

Another thing I am praying about that I wanted to throw out there just to get some response and guidance is that Michelle has been encouraging me to write a book. It's something I've thought about for a long time, but never quite knew where to start. Actually, I still don't know where to start, but I trust that will come if He ordains this. Anyway, the book would basically be a reference guide for families when they are experiencing difficulties during transition. I would have resources listed, stories of other families, and "advice" from myself and some actual experts. It would be a go-to sort of thing when you experience x, try z. It wouldn't be a novel, but more of a reference manual. I have felt for a long time that agencies are falling far short in their commitment to preparing families for the aftermath of adoption. I can't tell you how many families I talk to who had no idea what to expect or how to react. The vast majority of families have heard about some of these PI behaviors, but have not been coached in how to respond when they experience them in their own homes. I wonder how many children are a mess today as a result of bad reactions from parents? I wonder how many of those kids are out there giving international adoption a bad rap because people think their issues are due to the time they spent in the orphanage, not the unpreparedness of their families to heal them. I can tell you that for sure there are alot of kids dealing with on-going issues that could have been solved by parents who understood what was needed. It's not that these families didn't want to do the right thing, to the contrary. Who goes around the world to rescue an orphan and doesn't have enough love to give them what they need. Most of these families responded incorrectly because they didn't know how else to respond. It's not rocket-science, but it's often counter-intuitive. Okay, so maybe I've just written the intro to the book... hahaha. At least I'm passionate about the topic. Anyway, I really want your HONEST feedback. If you think it's ridiculous, please say so. I'd rather be shot down now before I invest myself in a project that falls flat. And if you don't think it's something that would be well-received, you might be God's voice encouraging me to wait. So, please don't lavish encouragement if you think it's a bad idea. I'll blame Michelle since she's the one who thought of it in the first place! :)

1 Peter 5:6-7
"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you."

9 comments:

Barb said...

I think it's a really good idea . . . you know I fit into that "had no idea" category . . .I had read some stuff on the a forever family site . . but the info on RAD was quite frightening . . . the other thing that I find is missing out there is bonding activities for "older" children . . . on some websites, by "older" they mean 4 years old . . . anyways - that's my 2 cents' worth . . .

Heather & Jason said...

Ondrea- I will commit do doing a bible study with you- I checked both you listed, and currently have a greater interest in the Living Beyond Yourself Study vs. the Believe one. I'd do either one though so let me know what you decide and when you want to start.

I think the book idea would be great. Your sage wisdom and experience have helped me. I just wish you lived closer to Iowa or I'd probably be at your door often! Glad you are willing to email and post to your blog. I was one of those parents that felt like I had read and prepared quite a lot before adopting about dealing with the child's issues. But I don't know if anything could have prepared me intellectually for parenting our child, which is such a mental/emotional/spiritual expereince! Having resources, ideas, and people to share the expereince with really helps.

Nicole said...

Okay , Im in for living Beyond yorself! Lord do I need this now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tiger & Kar said...

Hey there! I'm in for Living Beyond Yourself also!

And about the book - go for it girlie. I think it's an awesome idea!

Barb said...

I completely forgot to comment on the bible study . . . I would like to join in as well, provided it allows me to (hoping the foreign location isn't a problem . . .) I checked out the Living Beyond Yourself and liked it too . . . and the topic addresses my needs . . .

Bill and Myra said...

I will have to think about the bible study and look at your suggestions.

I am interested in your book. I think my husband and I could say a lot about adopting older children. We just had our last post placement report for our 12 year old and our social worker commented on how far he has come. These "older" children are overlooked quite a bit and I would love to do whatever it takes to get them adopted or at least explain what it was like. There was very little good material out there when we completed our first adoption.

Kristine said...

Bible study..yes!

Write a book...YES!

I do have a question for you...
what if your kids aren't showing any kind of "trouble"...will it pop up later??? This is something I pray about and struggle with..truly a fear. Am I just too rosy, rosy or are my kids ok? I guess only time will tell and I know the Lord will help me through anything...what is your take on it? Please do a chapter on that topic. ;)

lori said...

Ondrea, I've always thought you were a gifted writer and your style of writing will have people either laughing or crying from your list of personal experiences! I think it's a great idea; thanks for facing your lion in the pit on a snowy day--you never know what God has for you on the other side! And, I think a bible study would be great because we could do it together even though I don't get to see my coffee clatch girl. I love you.

jajbs said...

I think your writing a book is a great idea!

I was just thinking about the fact that we (your readers) had "talked" about doing a Bible study together and was going to e-mail you about it, but I got so busy and forgot. I actually bought the Living Beyond Yourself one a while back and was going to do it alone, but I need the accountability each week. I vote for that one. It looked like such a "growth" one. I am in when you decide and canNOT wait to get started!

BTW, your children are such cuties!! You have one good-looking family!!